HORTENSIA, what does it mean for adults and children.....and even animals?

The HORTENSIA-situation is characterised by searching and waiting for one's destiny and life, seemingly, collapses like a house of cards in which the main theme is: The recurring question of the meaning of life.
Because these people no longer see a purpose, they start experimenting, e.g. changing partners, professions, homes.

The negative Hortensia state often used to appear between the age of 40 and 50. The inner void that arose then could seemingly no longer be filled by anything.
It was called mid-life crises!!!!!

However, nowadays you see that this state of mind arises earlier and earlier in the lives of people and even children.

You see in men ( although it is increasingly common in women too), that during the "purposelessness" phase of their lives, they react to their frustrations and dissatisfaction with increasing intensity.
When they take stock of their lives, they often find that they can no longer push away the feeling of doubt and uncertainty.
"Is this what I have achieved my life? Is this quite it? Do I want to continue like this for the rest of my life?

One then falls in love with younger partners, because youth always has the future!!!

You used to see homosexuality actually rising during this period (of the mid-life crisis). So: Homosexual you can become! These completely untrue, incorrect opinions/ideas were "common" back then.
However, it turned out that the sexual orientation had been suppressed by the then prevailing values and norms for all those years.
Just now, thankfully, how many women/men dare/can come out that they are lesbian/homosexual/transgender.

In my opinion, the explanation lies in the fact that it is simply not so easy to "follow your own path". You may or may not be married, have your own house, "with a mortgage", children and many obligations.

You are supposed to have a career. This, unfortunately, still applies more to men than women. But women are also coming under increasing pressure. Although women still live more from their intuition than men (oops), their lives will only get tougher too. Must women not only have a family, be the perfect cook, nurse, mistress, girlfriend, cleaning lady and combine their careers but also do it all absolutely perfectly?
Unfortunately for women, combining all this is still very difficult, as they often lack the financial ability to take on someone in the household, so that you have more time for your career and you could give more of the time you would otherwise have to spend on your household to your children, friends and family etc.

In this negative state of mind, people often have to conclude, that everything has not brought great fulfilment and they often say:
I often feel a sense of inner emptiness and am constantly searching for something that fulfils me internally.
I don't like anything because I don't know what I actually want.
I have no purpose in my life.
I don't see the point of what I am doing at any given time.
I am very dissatisfied because I have the wrong profession. I would rather do something else, but I don't know what.
I am very dissatisfied at the moment because I don't see a goal in front of me.
Everything is equally drab.
I am waiting for one and all, but it is not coming.
I can't really be happy anymore because everything that happens around me is so uninteresting.

Anyway, in the end, those who have been quite able to develop their lives from their own souls will not feel so much pressure from within to change their lives during this period of their lives.

When people, who come to me, cannot clearly indicate this state of mind as a result of the interview, I often ask if they sometimes feel like they have a tangle of spaghetti in their head. This is often a clue for me to Hortensia's negative state of mind.

For a while, I had the opportunity to coach some players from a very well-known football team. Well, not because they couldn't play football......there are no remedies for that, hahaha...just kidding (though??). No, they had all lost their way despite all they had in terms of financial wealth.

All turned out well for them.

A few more cries regarding hydrangea:
aimless,
the eternal seeker,
has tried a lot, but has yet to find the right one,
12 trades, 13 accidents,
frequently changes work, partner, home,
starts a lot without finishing it because he finds no fulfilment anywhere,
life is monotonous because they do not see the point of all they do.

CHILDREN:

Children who watch too much T.V., play on their iPads or computers are also at risk of falling into this state of mind and why is that:
These children identify with their "hero" from the games they play or with the "hero" from t.v. programmes.
Passive observation often prevents them from discovering anything interesting to them in real life and, as a result, they are unable to develop their own personalities

As a result:
They do not know what to do with their free time and constantly complain that they are bored, leading to dissatisfaction and frustration
They don't know what to do and just hang around all day.
They can start with many things but don't really like anything and are then always looking for something new
They then begin something completely listless, then this then that again, but nothing seems to really bring joy.
They are constantly dissatisfied but take no action to change the situation. Trying to motivate them, but they are often told, "well that's no use anyway".
Since they lack any enthusiasm to start anything, they prefer to sit in front of the TV all day, even when the weather is nice
For example, if you go to a shoe shop (which they already don't want to do) and they can choose shoes, they absolutely don't know which one to choose. They would prefer to take all the shoes just to avoid having to choose
These children may often have reading or numeracy problems
At school, they find it only annoying because ostensibly the material being offered too big and cluttered is.

The flower of the Hydrangea is made up of all kinds of small flowers, which form one whole. You could say the Hydrangea looks like brains (at least I think so).
By the learning results that come after taking these remedies, it seems that the flower remedy connects the left and right hemispheres of the brain. It appears that through the flower remedy Hydrangea, children are much more easily able to learn, both maths and language and also children do their homework more easily and with more dedication.
Summary: Better concentration, easier learning, short-term memory improves.

But also "just" for children and young adults who struggle with concentration, learning the subject matter, getting better at maths and understanding language more easily!

It seems that the flower remedy Hydrangea somehow connects the left and right hemispheres of the brain so that they "work together" better. So my suspicion is this flower remedy acts on the corpus callosum.
But I cannot, unfortunately, prove that yet.

Here are a few reports from therapists, to which I have added nothing:
Child 1
Busy, chaotic and in their own world. No message from the environment comes in anymore. Learning fails and contact with others fails. Sitting in compulsive negative thoughts and experiencing everything pessimistically.
Reed and hydrangea
Busy and chaotic behaviour calms down. Emotions become milder (light comes on) Pessimism disappears. Contact with the outside world returns.

Child 2
Does not come to learning. Gets very poor grades. But can do the level in terms of intelligence. Is withdrawn into his own world. Reacts with nonchalance. Makes little effort. Tries to learn but does not succeed or does not try hard enough.
Child has experienced severe separation from parents. These tensions still play a role. Many changes of residence between parents (almost daily)
Example 3 and 4 are from the same family.
Reed and hydrangea
Became more orderly, open and started doing homework better by himself. In addition, in the same week there were talks in which he was now open instead of nonchalant. Together with him, we decided to continue at school one level lower after the holidays. This has given him relief. Space returned to him. He did not have to take the drops at night. Then he couldn't sleep.

Child 3
Separation from parents with a lot of grief that came up especially in the evening.
Reed and hydrangea
Sadness became much less so she could just fall asleep.

Child 4
Has difficulty finding her own place. Can't sleep at night because she feels like she has forgotten something but doesn't know what. But does fear that this will cause something to go wrong the next day.
By drops:
Thoughts disappear and settle down. It allows her to fall asleep. No more feeling of overlooking something. Also wakes up the next morning feeling fitter and more fit.

Reed and Hortensia together work very nicely together (brother and sister) and have an even greater reach together.
What I notice is relaxation in emotional experience. Of any kind.
Information is not held back for processing by emotions but converted faster into execution, rest or reaction.

ANIMALS

I like it when I also get questions through the blog:
Below is a question about animals and my answer to it.
I can imagine, if animals are bored because the "owner" has no time, they get into such a state of mind. They need a challenge, attention and to know that they are important to you! I will give an example. Some time ago, someone came to me and she was looking after a horse that had been "stabled" for so long (I consider animal cruelty, by the way!) The horse is about 28 years old. The poor animal had lost all joy in life and I lovingly made a combination of remedies that included hydrangea. The person, who takes care of the horse (not the owner), also has a special bond with him. We are now quite some time on and it has become a happy, sprightly animal. And it is a male, though...now! He knows exactly what he wants. Well, isn't that something to be wonderfully happy about?

Madeleine Meuwessen

*Bloom remedies are no substitute for medication. Please note that in case of doubt you should always consult a doctor.