Day cuckoo flower

Day cuckoo flower - Silene dioica

The flower remedy Day Cuckoo Flower is for people who suffer from a lack of basic self-confidence. This can manifest itself in fear of failure, hardly daring to address others, blushing easily and sometimes being unable to utter a word from excitement.
Also, in everyday life, you are quick to feel even inferior to others or timid and inhibited in front of others.
You do not consider yourself capable of many things and you often have a strong sense of inferiority and a great awe of authorities.

In practice, you quickly expect failure because you doubt your own abilities, sometimes you are convinced that you really are incompetent! Obviously, this prevents you from daring to undertake new things and you admire others immensely because they have so much success, dare to do it.

Children who have trouble participating in swimming or find it exciting to go to a children's party and try to get out of it by saying they don't like it, benefit greatly from the flower remedy Day Cuckoo Flower.
For those children who at school say they don't do anything well anyway (are fearful of failure), the flower remedy also helps.
Physically, especially in children, it can manifest itself in abdominal pain above the navel: the site of lack of self-confidence. It also forms the reason why, with children, I always ask if they ever have abdominal pain and ask them to indicate the place where they feel it.
The cause of stuttering, if not caused by a shocking experience, often lies in this disposition.
The same applies to adults, of course.

If exam anxiety often torments you weeks before the actual exam and increases as the exam date approaches, it makes sense to start using this remedy even weeks before the exam.

The flower remedy Day Cuckoo Flower strengthens your self-confidence and self-awareness also helps you unfold your own personality. You come to stand with both feet on the ground. "I come out in front of myself".

The flower remedy Day Cuckoo Flower underlies many other negative emotions and is therefore connected, indirectly, to many meridians.

Madeleine Meuwessen

*Bloom remedies are no substitute for medication. Please note that in case of doubt you should always consult a doctor.

Protection

In the previous columns, I have described the remedies Yarrow, Hosta, Turquoise and Christmas Plum separately. You may very well recognise certain things about all four of the described blossom remedies in the practice of daily life.

Let me briefly reiterate the most distinctive of these four:

• At Yarrow-people are drained of energy. They seek recognition from others and want to be loved.
  This wanting to be too sweet and not being able to delimit properly is often the cause of being bullied at work or school.
  You may notice that you experience energy loss in front of others and can get very tired of the other person. It feels like the other person is pulling your energy away.

• The blossom remedy Hosta is for people who are very sensitive and have fear of the great unknown: fear of the future, fear of the dark, fear of ghosts, etc. They feel that there are places in the house that make them feel unsettled.

• For feeling great inner turmoil, hyperventilation, nail biting and sometimes as if dark, negative and destructive forces are at work, the blossom remedy is Christmas plum very suitable for removing the inner tension involved.

• The remedy Turquoise helps that you no longer take on the emotional and physical symptoms of others and can calmly stick to your own decision and therefore cope with new situations.
  I have done these four remedies in one combination. This allows you to stay better with yourself, you are no longer "drained" by others, you do not take on the physical or emotional influences or complaints of others, you are shielded from destructive forces. "Non-earthly" fears disappear and you are no longer burdened by superstitious predictions.

The experience of many people is that they feel completely happy and PROTECTED.

A remedy, which is especially important in these times.

It helps to live a self-reliant life in the true sense of the word.

Madeleine Meuwessen

*Bloom remedies are no substitute for medication. Please note that in case of doubt you should always consult a doctor.

I WOULD LIKE TO QUIT THE JOB I AM DOING NOW AND DO SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT, BUT I CAN'T FORCE MYSELF TO DO IT, EVEN THOUGH I AM INTERNALLY LONG FINISHED WITH MY CURRENT JOB.

The remedy Turquoise represents new beginnings and it facilitates the changeover to new life circumstances, helps to let go of the old and accept the new: in short, for all conceivable changes.

"the cure that works the breakthrough"

It is the remedy that helps us pass all such transitional phases without regret, without looking back at the past, without fear of the future and therefore saves us the mental and physical strain, which so frequently accompanies such occasions, think of:
- relocation
- change of profession
- change of school
- separation
- conversion to other religion
- retirement
- healing after long-term illness
- disability
- get teeth (if your child has problems with teething, you can put 2 drops (from the stockbottle) of this directly on the gums.
- puberty
- pregnancy
- birth
- dead

Turquoise is also a good aid in inner change phases, hormonal change and spiritual development processes.
People who need Turquoise often say of themselves:

- I want to move but can't quite look forward to my new home yet.

- I would like to quit my profession to do something else, but I cannot get around to it yet, even though I have already resigned in my mind.

- I am currently in a great breakthrough phase, but have not yet fully accepted the new inner self.

- I still cling to the old, even though I want something new.

- I feel very insecure towards all that is new.

Why is it that even stable people with strong characters, who otherwise don't let themselves be so easily unsettled, have to deal with this kind of indecision?
One can imagine that these people's surroundings are also involved in the upcoming changes and thus react to the plans. For example, if a person is considering changing profession, this will equally affect his (non-)working partner, as he may face financial risk, possible loss of prestige. The partner may also have to find a new job as a result or may decide not to go along with the whole process, there may be children who have to change schools, and whatnot.

Thus, the individual not only has to wrestle with himself for his decision, but also has to push it through in front of those around him. In doing so, there is a danger that he allows himself to be unsettled by well-meaning advice from others. But arguments such as social norms, prevailing convention or moral views also tend to make it difficult to implement the decision taken.

This can mean a discrepancy between the inner need to initiate the change and the outside compulsion. This can cause a lot of inner turmoil.
Here Turquoise helps to stay with one's convictions and to live and act according to one's convictions, and to row against the tide in spite of all influence if necessary.
You may feel inwardly distant from the people, whom you love.
A sense of inner emptiness.
Life can seem joyless to you.
You may feel listless and disinterested in nothing.

Turquoise also protects against particulate influences and also from taking over physical complaints from others. For instance, you may get a headache and it turns out that someone around you has a headache.
Also, what I have already mentioned,
So it helps e.g. very sensitive healers and others who work a lot with people/animals (social workers, coaches, i.e. people working in interaction-dependent professions) not to adopt symptoms (physical and/or emotional complaints) of their patients/clients.
The drug, for example, helps very sensitive healers not adopt symptoms of their patients.

Turquoise also helps process impulses emanating from one's own inner self during inner change phases. The psychic change process needed to introduce a new period of life is more easily processed.

In addition, you can use Turquoise for:

- cuts
- open wounds
- prevention of poor wound healing and uncontrolled scarring
- treatment of scars

Because the remedy does not go directly into a open wound may be given, the principle here is to take it internally in the form of a glass of water, two drops from the stockbottle in a glass of water, taking a sip every five minutes onwards in acute cases and tapering off as things improve.

Scars can cause a wide variety of symptoms. When the healing process of a wound has not gone well, the scar in that place blocks the energy flow of the body.

A so-called "disturbance field" is created that can remotely trigger disturbances at any location in the body.

Rubbing with Turquoise can make all symptoms caused by it disappear within seconds. Especially scars around the mouth, e.g. teeth pulling or peeled tonsils. For this, drop a few drops of the remedy (again from the stockbottle) on a cotton bud and brush over the scar with it.

Considering, on the one hand, that the energy flows in the meridians of acupuncture are accompanied by measurable changes in skin resistance and, on the other hand, that poorly formed scars show a different skin resistance than their surroundings, it is entirely understandable.

Externally, scars cannot be seen as a field of interference. Scars, even if they are so small, can sometimes cause a wide variety of health complaints. When the healing process of a wound has not gone well, the scar in that place blocks the energy flow of the body. This creates a so-called "disturbance field" that can remotely cause disturbances at any place in the body. Bear in mind that, on the one hand, the energy flows in the meridians of acupuncture are accompanied by measurable changes in skin resistance, and that, on the other hand, poorly formed scars show a different skin resistance than their surroundings, it is entirely understandable.

For scars, I have developed a special cream.

Well dear people, plenty to think about.

Madeleine

The gemstone Turquoise
It is the only remedy made from a semi-precious stone.

This remedy is especially for new beginnings.

If you struggle with changes like starting a new profession, moving house, a fresh start at school, retiring, Turquoise enables you to cope well with such life changes.
When you are eager to move to your new home but can't really look forward to it, when you are happy about your new job but at the same time unsure whether you can handle the new job, Turquoise helps. The same goes for children going to a new school, finding it exciting and at the same time being afraid of it. Or people retiring and fearing a black hole.

Where the flower remedy Yarrow helps against others drawing energy away, Turquoise helps with the opposite. You may be taking on physical symptoms and/or emotional influences from others, e.g. you get a headache and it turns out that someone around you has a headache. Turquoise supports you in setting boundaries to this.

So it helps e.g. very sensitive healers and others who work a lot with people/animals (social workers, coaches, i.e. people working in interaction-dependent professions) not to adopt symptoms (physical and/or emotional complaints) of their patients/clients.

With what has been described above, it may seem that you are strongly influenced by others, however, the cause lies in your indecision.

Turquoise not only enables you to cope well with the changes in your life, but also to take the steps that come with them.
The remedy to stick to one's convictions and live and act from one's convictions.
This remedy has a relationship with the small intestine, circulatory sex and lung meridian, i.e. with the organs Small intestine, part of the Heart and Lung.

Physically, you may have complaints on the left knee.

A special indication is the treatment of scars: these, even if so small, can sometimes cause a wide variety of health complaints. For instance, when molars or teeth are pulled, Turquoise helps the wound heal faster, and in children who are molting, the remedy helps the process go faster by rinsing 2 drops of Turquoise in a glass of water for as long as it is needed.

Madeleine Meuwessen

*Bloom remedies are no substitute for medication. Please note that in case of doubt you should always consult a doctor.

The blossom remedy Hosta helps cope with an oversized sensitivity.

This sensitivity often shows itself as:
Vague, unnameable fears.
Not motivated fear of the future.

It all relies on an oversized sensitivity, which takes in real impressions from another sphere and processes them unconsciously.
However, this cannot be explained by the logical mind and, as a result, all sorts of inexplicable fears arise.

The Hosta condition can be understood as a corollary of a fine material influence, which one senses but cannot clearly place. As a result, this perception arouses a vague fear that cannot be put into words. Just as touching a hot stove causes burning pain on the skin, which is recognised by our consciousness as heat, so the perception of an astral influence arouses a feeling that, for lack of sufficient knowledge, we undergo as fear.

By Hosta teaches man, child or animal that he need not fear these "real" things.
It should become clear to you that these astral influences can only hurt you if you open up to them.
We are not really alone. A whole cosmos full of invisible vibrations and also beings constantly surround us.
However, this is no cause for alarm.
Nature has limited our powers of perception to our physical level, to avoid having to constantly relate to these other realms.

Children, who are more accessible to these levels than adults want the door to their room to remain open at night or a light to be left on.

Now suppose your child says he is afraid there is a ghost under the bed. Do you then know if it is actually a Hosta-anxiety is?
There is an easy way to find out.
If the child has seen a ghost on t.v., it has nothing to do with Hosta but with a completely different state of mind. n.v. Mask flower.
This remedy will also be discussed in detail over time, but for now: If the child has anxiety because they have seen a ghost, know that Maskerflower deals with real fears.
If this is not the case ( and this is why it is so important to know what films or TV programmes the child watches or what books he or she reads, then here is a Hosta-anxiety.
I often say that it seems these children were born with "too thin a skin".
Another indication of this is that if the child wakes up from a bad dream or nightmare, they do not dare to go back to sleep. Also, these imagined fears may arise just before sleeping.

London:
Many children have a fear of the dark - can only fall asleep when a light is on.
But even that small light can have serious consequences for the eyes.
Leaving it on all night weakens the viewing ability.
So reads the alarming report of a study reported by the English journal "Nature".
The research was done by US scientists at the University of Philidelphia.

The researchers examined 479 children aged between two and 16 years, the results were:
Only 10 % of the children, who slept in the dark, are nearsighted.
In the children, where parents left a nightlight on, myopia is at 55%.
Were it just a very small nightlight, the percentage was 34 %.

Light makes the apple of the eye grow.

In birds and monkeys, light is known to affect eye growth.

An oversized eyeball is the main cause of later myopia.
Until the second year of life, the apple of the eye in children grows very fast, explain the researchers.
Normally, the parallel incident light rays meet at the retina and produce a sharp image. If the eyeball is too large, the light rays are merged even before the retina.

People who Hosta need suffer from vague fears, which they cannot name. They declare being afraid, but do not know what for. Many of them suffer from premonitions and get it into their heads that some horrific accident or other disaster is imminent. In the process, they literally inflate their irrational fears and are haunted by their own fear representations.
This allows them to make life hell for themselves. Much of what they fear stems from their own "fantasy".

Often, when Hosta-people a mix between fascination and fear of occult matters
- the scary feeling, the goosebumps and the hair standing on end all counts as "proof" that they are dealing with supernatural powers

They do not want to let go of the fear, lest they unconsciously fear losing the experience of occult phenomena as a result.

You also often see these people doing commuting, astrology, card laying for the future, as if by doing so they can prevent accidents or disasters!
Of course, I have nothing against commuting, astrology or whatever. It does get annoying for these people when they let it define their lives.
For example, if you need to run errands or cross the state and the pendulum says no.
This as an actual example from my practice.
Indeed, people can easily become victims of their own delusions like the above example.
The result may be: A self-fulfilling prophecy.

The future in general (not their financial future) can hang over them like a sword.

Suppose someone has a huge fear of death. Again:

If you have a fear of death and what comes next, then it is Hosta anxiety

If you have a fear of dying and of the suffering associated with death, then it is Masquerade Fear.

You can also see that in adults, children and animals, apparent aggression can arise because they feel threatened.
I personally find that easily recognisable in animals.
Last week, someone came into the practice with a little dog, who had come from Romania. There is quite a lot going on with this dog, but what struck me first was his Hosta-anxiety. The alertness at "everyday" things he seemed to react very strongly to, even though he is a very sweet and gentle animal.
Wonder how he will be next month.

A young woman aged 17 came to me, several years ago, with her mother.
The mother was at her wit's end. For 17 years, she and her husband had not once gone out alone. The daughter could not stay home alone. Nor could she take a shower alone because the fear was so great. And going to bed at night....no, she couldn't do that alone. The mother still had to sit with her until she fell asleep.
The mother was overtired but felt it was her duty to assist her daughter, who was so scared anyway....at all times!

After the daughter's long time with Hosta treated, she told me as a "great victory" that she could shower on her own, but her mother still had to stand in the corridor.
The next time, I (in consultation with the mother) did not put Hosta in her combination bottle and the daughter told me it was still going well. (I had not told her Hosta was out of the combination).
Every time, when they both came to the practice, I found that the daughter behaved very unpleasantly towards the mother. When I asked why she snapped at her mother like that every time, she said she felt the mother was not doing enough for her. She felt that her mother was there for her, after all, she had brought her into the world and she only had to take care of her!

And then....yes, then I started working on other remedies. She may have suffered some Hosta anxiety, but what she was mainly doing was manipulating her mother with her anxiety so that the mother had become a willing slave to her daughter. And when finally the mother went "on the remedies", the daughter could no longer manipulate. In the end, the daughter and mother all worked out fine. But this made quite an impression on me and I have never forgotten this case.

Hosta - Hosta Montana Macrophylla


Hosta-people suffer from many fears, fear of the dark, fear of ghosts, fear of the unknown, fear of anxiety, fear of the future. They often suffer from premonitions that some disaster is going to happen. It is the feeling that there is something that scares you. You don't know what, but the feeling can give you goosebumps. You can be fascinated by occult things and simultaneously fear them. You can have a fear of death. It is not the suffering before death that scares you, but what will come after
death. You may be startled awake at night by nightmares or anxious dreams. Once awake, you are afraid to go back to sleep. In short, vague, unnameable, often unrealistic fears.

These people get support from commuting, carding for the future and other variations. Nothing wrong with that in itself, but you can't prevent accidents or disasters with it!

A consequence can also be that you stay where you are because you don't dare to undertake new things.

The blossom remedy Hosta is particularly suitable for hypersensitive and anxious children. These are often unable to state quite clearly what they are afraid of.
They have vague fears and uneasy feelings. Sometimes they fear there is a monster under the bed. They only want to go to sleep with a light on, preferably with the light in the corridor on too...,
And when they have to go to the toilet at night, they have fears that there are strange ghosts/ghosts.
It seems as if these little kids were born with "too thin a skin". They pick up things from the astral world that are actually there.

Many kinds of film or TV programmes are not good for these people/children. It only fuels their fears. Even "innocent" cartoons can be too much for the children.

The blossom remedy Hosta ensures you can handle an oversized sensitivity. You feel safe and calm. This makes you happier living in the here and now and gives a sense of space and simultaneously a sense of protection.

This flower remedy has a relationship with the liver and colon meridian, i.e. with the organs Liver and Large intestine.

Physically, it may manifest itself by pimples on the chin and upper right back, dizziness, an internal 'cold feeling'.

Madeleine Meuwessen

*Bloom remedies are no substitute for medication. Please note that in case of doubt you should always consult a doctor.

The media is currently paying a lot of attention to stress.
And a headline in last week's Telegraph: And then the lights went out.
This is really what can happen when you suffer from stress. You can have a total blackout get.

In this blog, I will elaborate further on the remedies Cucumber weed and Cucumberweed II.
You haven't heard from Cucumberweed II until now.
I also pondered for a long time whether to write about Cucumberweed in relation to pregnancy. I find that such a sensitive subject. There is nothing about this on the Star Remedies website either. Precisely because I find it such a precarious subject and know how vulnerable you are as a woman when you want so badly to have a child and it doesn't happen.
And precisely because of a client, who came to me after 12 years and thanked me for getting her pregnant, I have now decided to mention it very carefully on the blog.

As I mentioned in the previous blog, Cucumberweed is the main "stress remedy". And is widely subsumed under the heading of stress, which is actually incorrect.
Stress has only to do with "external" things. So in fact, it says nothing about yourself. It is the expectations of others that trigger these negative emotions. That means you have to meet these expectations of others, you think! Your boss absolutely wants you to finish work, the children demand attention, besides that (for now as a woman) you are supposed to meet all kinds of "standard norms". Size 36, the perfect housewife, the nurse, being able to cook as well as "Heel Holland bakt"????, quality time with your girlfriends and oh yes, and the book 50 or was it 70 Shades of Grey also had quite an impact. While falling broken in your bed from all that had to be done that day and then being the amazing mistress.
I can imagine that sometimes what I have written may come across as a bit cynical, but I think many will recognise themselves in at least some of this.

Now, everyone will not always be equally sensitive to stress. What can often be "underneath" this state of mind is the feeling of walking in a kind of dark cloud, getting anxious, being hypochondriac, having absolutely no energy left to e.g. read a book, being angry that all this is happening to you and thinking that it will never get better anyway. Know, again, that these emotions can be "underneath".
The more sensitive you are as a human being, the more sensitive you are to stress.And this sensitivity often has to do with "basic confidence" in the life to make. Which again is something quite different that too little self-confidence.

There is another emotion related to stress, but not as strong as Cucumberweed, namely Queen of the Coasts. This remedy will also be discussed in detail one day. In short: Not being able to stand injustice, wanting to make the world a better place, carrying the world's burden on your shoulders and that everything that happens "comes in that way". But this later.

And one day, stronger, taller plants of Cucumberweed appeared in my garden. What these do is add a "male" equivalent to the "regular" Cucumberweed.
I myself always test which Cucumberweed is best with my clients, often giving both.

Years ago, I made Cucumber Remedy. Little did I know that I would ever make so many different remedies. I was in practice then and felt there was a thread (I can't call it anything else) from my head to "something" in the garden. I made the remedy when the time came. But that thread...I didn't understand anything about it. I asked a blossom maker friend what it could mean, who told me it was quite logical: it was a connection with "above". And that to me, down-to-earth Mien.

Sometime after that, a young woman came into the practice and wanted drops because she was so sad that she could not have children. She was very happily married, but that she could not have children....that was so hard for her. She had, then, had 3 x IVF and more was not possible or allowed.

I started working with her with the remedies to process her grief in this way. After a while she was doing much better. I still don't know why, but I said in one of the consultations: Maybe you could still have IVF now, maybe the methods have changed. You could always inquire. So said, so done and what turned out, she was allowed 1 more treatment.Well, stress of course. And on intuition, I said to her: if you get the treatment, put the bottle between your breasts during the treatment. Long story short: She was immediately pregnant and nine months later a beautiful daughter was born. Two years after that, she came to again saying she had yet treatment was allowed: and again I said: the bottle between the breasts and nine months later, twins were born.
Gradually, Cucumber Spice was ordered by many women and I know many women got pregnant. How many I don't know because I never wrote about it.

Six months ago, a woman came into the practice with a number of complaints. Right the first time, she said: Madeleine don't you recognise me anymore? No, I said, I really don't know. Well, she told me, I owe it to you that I now have three children. I then got Cucumberweed.

She also came for her little son, who is in the top 10 in a certain sport and as soon as he "has" to perform, he slackens. You get the picture: this little boy needed Cucumberweed. In children, you see that it often works much faster than in adults. After two consultations, during which the trainer was also present ( to understand what I was doing), he had regained his full confidence in the game. The strength in his arms came back and he was able to win every match.

What Cucumber herb does in pregnancy is connect with the soul that is waiting for you. Cucumber herb, of course, does not help if there are physical problems. And if there is no soul waiting for you, there will be no pregnancy.
This last piece is for me always so difficult. I like to understand things, prove and yes....here, my confidence should still prevail.
And that too is and was a reason for me not to publicise this so much. But yes, now I have done it anyway.

Cucumber weed - Borago officinalis

According to the latest findings, 69% of women and men suffer from stress. There are many meanings given to "stress" in everyday life.
You may be suffering from the feeling of being overloaded because you have so much to do or the feeling that you are supposed to finish your work. This may look like stress, but it is not real stress. This usually has to do with just real 'temporary' busyness or not meeting certain standards and values. This calls for a different blossom......
Very often Burnout is related to stress but Burnout has a completely different cause (which can also involve all kinds of physical symptoms), which I will definitely come back to in another column.

The flower remedy Cucumberwort is the real "stress flower" par excellence. Not only do you feel overloaded, you are. You feel like you can no longer meet all the demands made on you (by the outside world). It keeps haunting them and the work lies before them like an insurmountable mountain.

This mountain has been created by outside actions. It's not that you have all the work thrown at you, it's what's being put on your plate. You get the feeling that you can't live up to it all. The work, whether outside the home or at home, the children, the ideal husband/wife, good friend, sports, you name it are causes that you experience life as stressful and it is.
Physically, this can manifest itself in: difficulty concentrating, nervous palpitations, insomnia, muscle complaints. Even tennis elbow, even if you don't play tennis, can result. A feeling of nausea to the right of the stomach may also occur. Sometimes you feel like having a real nervous breakdown.

In acute situations, the flower remedy Cucumberwort can be of great value. If you have to take exams or have a job interview, all your thoughts may "just suddenly" be gone, which is also called a blackout.
This is real stress too!
In acute situations, take two drops of this flower remedy in a glass of water that you drink in small sips.

When you look up like a mountain to all the things, any things, you have to do then Cucumberweed "cuts" the mountain into "pieces" and you are able to act from your heart as you need to. And you are better able to prioritise everything you still have to do.

This flower remedy belongs with both the kidney and stomach meridian, so also with both organs Kidney and Stomach.

Madeleine Meuwessen

*Bloom remedies are no substitute for medication. Please note that in case of doubt you should always consult a doctor.