PEER (Giesser wild man)

A quote from a client: Peer doesn't bother anymore!

In spring, I turn the tree into the beautiful blossom remedy Pear and in winter I enjoy these delicious stewing pears!

Pear is the flower remedy for those who, after many failures, have lost courage in a seemingly hopeless situation. Pear also helps with long-term illnesses, where there is no hope of recovery and the patient no longer believes in salvation.

If you have encountered difficulties many times in your life and at the next obstacle you already think: this will probably go wrong again, Peer helps you to get the job done. If you suffer from depression, or have failed your exams many times, that you have ended up in a dark swamp or that everything seems hopeless.

These people genuinely suffer from deep despair, everything appears bleak and empty to them. They have already tried a lot and have experienced so many disappointments in the process that they no longer want to go on. Any further effort seems futile to them, there is no one else to help them anyway. They no longer even complain about their suffering, because even that seems useless to them. They are often persuaded by family members to make another attempt, but only to please them. Inwardly, they are convinced in advance that the venture will come to nothing.
Often, they usually have a pale complexion and dark circles under the eyes.

Remember in the previous blog I dedicated to the Bali blossom remedy? Sometimes it is difficult to pinpoint exactly whether you are suffering from the negative mood of Bali or Peer. A kind of donkey bridge is that Bali people "feel" that their situation is hopeless and with Pear that the mind says that nothing but nothing can help them anymore.

A good example: concerns a man, 37 years old, has been living with his girlfriend for several years, no children.
The man holds a senior position at a US company.
He hands me a report from two psychologists who tested him on behalf of his employer.
He has worked at this company for 13 years. He has climbed a step higher on the ladder each time.

He has no real physical complaints at all (he says), except suffering from dizziness, headaches, muscle pain, pain in neck and back, problems sleeping, cannot relax and is irritable.
Has had 2 x panic symptoms last month accompanied by shortness of breath, palpitations, fear of losing control and sweating.
These are not real physical complaints according to him, but feeling uncomfortable in his skin. He doesn't remember when this feeling started, about five years ago, but he does know that it crept in so slowly.
He often feels that he is looking for something that will change his life, but by God does not know what. He feels mentally jaded and that his performance is impaired. He tends to avoid certain busy situations, such as standing in a queue at a shop.He feels that he is being watched in those situations. He also has difficulty going out alone, as he experiences feelings of embarrassment. He indicates that his complaints are work-related. And for the past two months, he has not been working at all.
According to the report:
Diagnosis according to DSM-IV
AsI: 300.81 Undifferentiated somatoform disorder (burnout)
Axis II: ---
Axis III: back pain
Axis IV: stress work: high
Axis V: Gaf score:

Therapy proposal:
Cognitive behavioural therapy according to the burn-out protocol, focusing on relaxation training, stress management and identifying and modifying dysfunctional cognitions in the field of perfectionism, among others. Moreover, if panic symptoms do not diminish sufficiently, attention to this through cognitive therapy and exposure exercises.
Guiding work resumption.

For me, the most important thing at the beginning was that although he said he had given up all hope, he still came to me literally "by the hand" of his sister. This meant that somewhere, he did hope for a miracle and wanted to "take on" the therapy.

Why did I never forget this client? Well, from his Armani suits!
Once we got down to business, one of the first things he did was give his Armani suits (which he was quite proud of) to his domestic help. He no longer needed these. After that, he and his girlfriend parted on good terms.
Eventually, he said goodbye to the company he worked for. Started up for himself in a completely different industry...and very successful! Got married to the love of his life and together they have two little daughters. And has become, despite things always coming your way, a very happy man.
If I had "overlooked" Peer's state of mind, a blockage would have occurred and the whole treatment could have taken much longer.

The therapist does not exactly have an easy time with his Peer people. Also, what are you supposed to do with someone, who no longer believes in healing or even alleviating his symptoms himself and does not even come to you of his own accord?
Peer people's inner defences are the biggest obstacle on the road to health. As a therapist, you may feel that the treatment merely serves as an alibi
serves and the (expected) failure for the family should serve as evidence of the incurability of the disease. Thus, failure of any therapy is included in the programme in advance.

If, contrary to expectations, an improvement - albeit modest - occurs, the therapy is discontinued on the grounds that such little progress is not worth the effort. After all, the patient had already resigned himself to having to bear his symptoms until the end of his life.
And now the flower remedy Pear can help lift the inner blockage so that the client opens up to treatment. The inner clinging to the disease is ultimately the cause of incurability. Pear works in such a case as a psychic 'persuasive agent' and is absolutely necessary to be used with all chronic degenerative ailments where stagnation in healing has set in and the success of treatment is stagnating.

For people who have been diagnosed with an incurable illness, or a hopeless feeling in their lives, the flower remedy Pear can mean a huge amount.
I would like to emphasise very strongly that this remedy cannot cure the illness so there are absolutely no false or incorrect expectations. I personally see this remedy as a helping hand through which people regain a handle and hope to fight against their illness or hopelessness.

The blossom remedy Pear gives you the inner strength and returns your confidence. If you claim for yourself that you can do it, you can do it.

Pear gives you back the sparkly feeling, deep inside. The "happy feeling" as I always call it. Knowing, even from your rational mind, that things will be fine now. You can embrace life again with full confidence because it "gives back" your inner, true trust in life.

Shall we do this in the drinking water of the Netherlands?

Madeleine Meuwessen

*Bloom remedies are no substitute for medication. Please note that in case of doubt you should always consult a doctor.